SECRETS FOR THE BEST LEVERAGE IN YOUR NEGOTIATIONS
Most people never get training in negotiation, yet it is one of the most essential skills in business and in life. We are constantly negotiating – to get bigger, better deals in our favor. In How I Do Business, I took the years of studying and having direct experience in negotiation and translated it into some base components, breaking down what it takes to become a great negotiator and the pitfalls to avoid. *Even accomplished negotiators can pick up some tips to augment their skills and learn more techniques to take their business to the next level.
THE PURPOSE OF A NEGOTIATION
Simply, the purpose of a negotiation is to maximize the meeting of your interests. You don't go into a negotiation to get the least amount that you can, do you? No, you want to get the most amount that you can.
But here is the paradox: In order to get the most that you can, you must also meet the other person's interests. For me to get all that I want, I have to give you what you want. This is where it gets tricky. There is a way to get what you want, and give the other person what they want with less struggle. This is power negotiation.COMPONENTS OF EVERY NEGOTIATION
First, it's important to understand the three components of a negotiation:
- Desire: There has to be desire on both parties' parts to even start negotiating.
- Agreement: You have to care about the outcome, but you can't care too much.
- No fixed rules: There will always be some rules, like if you and I are negotiating for me to buy your car, we will probably both have our clothes on. Rules like these are understood. But with regard to the value of the car and how we enter into negotiations? There are no fixed rules.
WHAT HAPPENS IN POWER NEGOTIATION?
Power negotiation works on some basic rules. First, it's a game of addition, not subtraction. It's a game of problem solving, not arguing. Lastly, it's a game of reformulating and seeing another point of view. So why do so many people find negotiation so challenging? One key concept is the difference between position and interest.
THE BASE OF A SUCCESSFUL NEGOTIATION
Think about a frustrating negotiation you've had. It's probably because you were negotiating about your position vs. their position and it got real competitive. Position-based negotiations go like this: I say something, you dig in and defend your position. So I defend my position. Now our egos get involved and we start worrying about who's right and who's wrong. We both take up a position and each say what we will or won't do. Where can you go from there?
Instead of negotiating about your position, you should negotiation from interest. What's motivating you? That's what really matters. Take these two examples:
Example 1: Let's say I have been dating a woman for 3 or 4 years and I'm very much in love with her. So I ask her to marry me. Is that a position or an interest?
Right now, it's just a position.
But, if then I say, "I want you to marry me to be my lifemate, to share my life with, to grow old with." Or I might say, "I want you to marry me is because I want someone to clean up after me. I want someone to do the dishes. I want someone to be a mother to my children, to cook my meals for me." Once I say why I want her to marry me, she knows my interests and now can make a better decision to get the outcome she desires.
Example 2: You're looking to buy a house, so you call a real estate broker. What would happen if the first thing the broker said was, "Do I have a deal for you! This house just came on the market this morning. It is going to be sold within two days, and is such a great deal. We have to go look at it right away!"
That would scare you to death. No real estate broker would say that to a client. Or at least, no successful one. Instead, a good broker says something like, "Oh, I'm glad you called. Tell me about what you want. Are you just moving to town? Are you familiar with the city? Are you going to work downtown? Are you going to work in the suburbs? How long of a commute is desirable? Do you have children? What price range? How many bedrooms?"
Here the broker takes your position — you want to buy a house — and immediately starts to find out your interests. The more they know about what you want and need, the better equipped they are to meet your expectations. This is why an excellent broker asks for details beyond desired location and your family size to determine what homes to show you. "A large family room" means different things to different people, so the more specific the description the broker gets, the likelier you are to get the home you want.
The next time you go to negotiate, remember it this way: Your positions are your behavior. Your interests are what motivate your behavior. If you've had an unsuccessful negotiation, you were probably focused on positions. But enter into a negotiation and focus on what your interests are and what their interests are, you can design a solution that does not require a lot of struggle. Things will go more smoothly and the chances of everyone getting their interests met go up dramatically, resulting in a successful negotiation...
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by Idham Azhari
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